A Case for Marrying Later

Some of the most faithful Christians I know today are unmarried. They are using their gifts to show a different side of what faithfulness might look like when one doesn’t have children, a spouse, a mortgage, or some other constraints. They are making a case for late marriages not simply because of the kind of marriage they might have by delaying it (hopefully more mature, grounded, … Continue reading A Case for Marrying Later

Botkin Sisters: Should I Keep Preparing for Marriage?

“I thought marriage was coming, and soon. I thought I gave up the worldly approach to womanhood in exchange for a beautiful biblical picture that included husband, children, a home to be a homemaker in. And something went wrong. I gave up the world’s picture in exchange for nothing. I have nothing to show for it. I’ve spent 8 years in a holding pattern. I … Continue reading Botkin Sisters: Should I Keep Preparing for Marriage?

TGC: Boundaries, Commitment, & Choices

[Editor’s note: The author mentions men getting caught up in loving limitless choices, becoming experience junkies. This applies equally to women. Feminism pressures women to be non-committal, to wait, to go out in the world and experience life first before settling down for marriage. Our culture’s over abundance of lifestyle marketing makes endless adventures very alluring.] Taking too long to choose a song is annoying … Continue reading TGC: Boundaries, Commitment, & Choices

McDonald: Courtship Questions for Potential Suitors

During our years speaking at various Christian conferences, my husband has received numerous requests from parents for his “famous” courtship questions. However, he has been hesitant to make them available, since it is easy for people to want a formula for courtship. His concern was that families may misunderstand the purpose for the questions and miss out on potentially wonderful matches for their daughters. My … Continue reading McDonald: Courtship Questions for Potential Suitors

Capturing Weak Women and Weak Men

“Empowered” is a power word for women (and for men frankly, but we’ll focus on women right now), so much so I hate to even try to redeem it. It is the feminist ideal which tempts women toward a man-centered confidence rather than living in Christ. It’s a seemingly invigorating idea that ends with God establishing the glory due Him by laying the sinner low, and yet we chase … Continue reading Capturing Weak Women and Weak Men

Wilson: Courtship and Rape Culture

Let us begin with what I believe to be a common sense observation, which is that when everything is rape then nothing is. We live in a time when the truth of much of this is playing out in real time. Let us begin with one side of the equation, which would be the current climate on college campuses created by various certified buttercups, which … Continue reading Wilson: Courtship and Rape Culture

Desiring God: Romantic Love is a Wonderful gift and a Terrible God

  The lie says: If you find romantic love, then your life will be safe and fulfilling. So much so that marriage becomes a type of salvation, and romantic love takes on almost redemptive expectations. So what would you say to Christians, either singles or newlyweds, who are in danger of losing awe in God by becoming preoccupied with romantic love? The first thing I … Continue reading Desiring God: Romantic Love is a Wonderful gift and a Terrible God